Deciding to expand your network of friends and maybe indulge in a little flirting
is one thing, but actually doing it is another. For many people, face to face chatting
is a challenging experience that they'd prefer to avoid. However, using Chat or Date
to build a bridge of communication can change the rules and put them in your favour.
But before you kick off your Chat or Date experience, there are some simple tips you
might like to think about; tips that'll help you get the most out of your chat time.
What do you want?
The first thing you ought to ask yourself is what you want out of the service. Are
you looking to make new friends? Perhaps you're hoping to chat your way to a date?
It might be even simpler than that; you might just want to indulge in a little flirting
or maybe exchange some saucy texts and photos with like-minded users.
Knowing what you want out of your chat time will give you a better idea of how to
approach people. Flirty chat is going to be that much cheekier and direct than the
kind of chat that you hope will result in a date. Decide what it is your looking
for before you pick up the phone; you can have a quick nose around the other profiles
available and see who's up for the same sort of thing.
First-night nerves
It's also important not to be nervous. It's completely understandable in a face
to face situation; you might be worried about the way you look, what you're wearing
or desperately trying to remember all those body language tips you read in that
magazine! Using Chat or Date means you don't have to worry about all of that. No one
can see you, so you don't have to worry about whether you're wearing the latest
fashion sensation and, on the other hand, you can't see them, so it's pointless
trying to worry about whether you have to touch your hair and mirror what they've
just done. Chat or Date puts you in a safe and friendly environment where you don't have
to worry about what's on the outside. You just need to let what's inside shine through.
“Easier said than done”, I hear you cry. However, it's a lot simpler than you might
first think. The key to good chat is to be honest. In day to day life, we often
edit what we do, think and say before we get anywhere near to expressing ourselves.
The result is that, often, those around us get to know a distorted version of our
true selves; they see what we want them to see or what we think they want to see.
Chat or Date takes away the need for all that deception. Of course, you still need to
be polite and respectful to people or you're not going to enjoy any lengthy communications.
However, Chat or Date is also an environment in which you can allow yourself to finally
be the person you really are deep inside. You have the right to agree, disagree
and flirt with people, as long as it's done in a considerate manner. Many of our
users find that using our service is a liberating experience, allowing them to interact
with others in a more honest and confident fashion. Often, these revelations follow
them into their daily lives, giving them access to a vein of confidence that they
hadn't, until that point, mined.
Honesty doesn't mean you can go around being rude, but it does mean that you can
turn off those edit buttons that prevent you from being the person you have the
capacity to be.
Help yourself enjoy Chat or Date
The other thing that Chat or Date gives you is the ability to refer to notes, if you
need to. Some users, especially in the early days, find it helpful to note down
a series of topics, funny stories and even jokes, ready to go in the event that
the conversation suddenly takes a dip. However, it's worth remembering that the
person on the other end of the line is probably feeling the same way as you. Even
the most seasoned chatters had to start somewhere and even the most seasoned chatters
have felt awkward before they found their feet.
The importance of listening
One of the most obvious aspects of chat that many people miss, both in face to face
and mobile chat situations, is listening. Chat isn't just about running off at the
mouth for as long as you can; it's also about listening to what the other person
has to say too. It's the best way to find out about the person chatting with. Chatting
is a two-way street and you are more likely to encourage someone to reveal those
all-important tit-bits about themselves if you give them space to do so.
If you feel that someone's being a bit cautious about what they're saying, a nifty
trick is to repeat what they've just said to you as a question. For example, if
someone says “I've had a really great day, today,” you can get them to elaborate
by asking “A really great day? How come?” Chat or Date is an environment where you can
exchange ideas, opinions, stories and – if you feel that it's all going the right
way – even phone numbers.
Who are you?
Some people find it easier to adopt a persona, rather than be who they really are.
The problem with this is that you have to maintain it. If you feel that you need
something of a mask to hide behind then it's far better to offer an extension of
yourself, relying on your strongest qualities to help you get into your stride.
For example, if you're known as a funny person then play on that ability. Alternatively,
if you have a reputation as someone with a lot of insight, then use that ability
to draw others out of themselves. In addition, there's no point in lying about who
you are, what you do or any aspect of your life. If you lie, you've got to remember
who you've lied to and just what you've said. It's a false economy and you will
get found out eventually. However, if there are aspects of your life that you're
reluctant to talk about, simply say so or steer the conversation in another direction.
And, finally, the most important thing to remember is to have fun and not take it
too seriously! Chat or Date is for people who enjoy enjoying themselves in the company
of like-minded people.